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No, we’re not asking your name. And we promise we’re not trying to offend you.

HENRY isn’t an insult; it’s a nickname given to a certain demographic in the personal finance world. If you earn a decent income, but feel like you aren’t building enough wealth, you might be a HENRY.

What is a HENRY?

HENRY is an acronym that stands for “High Earner, Not Rich Yet.” But what does it mean to be high earning? The definition varies depending on who you ask.

We sifted through Reddit forums to get a pulse check on what users say about HENRYs. People post anonymously, so we cannot confirm their individual experiences or circumstances.

Over on Reddit in the r/HENRYfinance subreddit, HENRYs are defined as “people who earn high incomes, usually between $250,000 to $500,000, but have not saved or invested enough to be considered rich.”

Net worth is another key number to consider.

Trevor Ausen, a certified financial planner in Minneapolis, Minnesota, says that HENRYs often have “somewhere between negative net worth, thanks to student loans or early career costs, to around $1 million in assets.”

Having an income or net worth above these figures tips the scales toward “rich.”

Who is the typical HENRY?

HENRYs are often business professionals, doctors, lawyers or tech employees with equity compensation, Ausen says.

Many live in places like New York or the Bay Area, he adds, where it can be hard to accumulate wealth even with a high salary due to the high cost of living. They’re usually in their 20s, 30s or 40s.

In some cases, HENRYs are also the first in their families to earn a higher income. That can come with added pressure to provide financial support for relatives and create generational wealth.

How do you know if you’re a HENRY?

Now that you know what a HENRY is, let’s see if you fit the bill.

“If you’re earning well but still feel like you’re just getting by financially, you might be a HENRY,” Flavio Landivar, a CFP in Miami, Florida, said in an email interview.

You might be a HENRY if you:

• Earn an above-average income (typically in the low to mid six-figure range).
• Live in a high-cost area.
• Spend most of your income on costs such as housing, student loans, child care and discretionary expenses.
• Don’t feel financially secure.

But not all HENRYs are the same.

While many have trouble building wealth because student loans or living expenses eat up their income, others are saving aggressively, Ausen says.

“They’ve only been high earning for a short amount of time, and just have not had the time to really build up those assets and save enough where they can be considered rich,” he says.

Ausen says his HENRY clients generally have too much cash. After maxing out their 401(k)s or other retirement accounts, they aren’t putting their extra money to work in an investment account.

If you’re parking a lot of cash in a general savings or checking account, that’s a sign you might be a HENRY.

“While there certainly is an argument for how much emergency fund, essentially, someone should have, after a certain point, it starts to become not as efficient as it could be,” Ausen says.

What do HENRYs care about?

Like most people, HENRYs want more money and greater financial freedom. Online discussions in r/HENRYfinance and other forums often focus on lifestyle creep, career growth, investment options and strategies for minimizing tax burdens.

HENRYs are also looking for quick guidance and reassurance that they’re on the right track.

“These young professionals may be settling into their careers, gaining responsibilities and have less leisure time than they used to,” Yesenia Realejo, a CFP with Tobias Financial Advisors in Plantation, Florida, said in an email interview.

“They may be starting families, buying homes, saving for their children’s college. With so much on their plates, they may find that they’re saving, but have no planned financial direction.”

Is being a HENRY good or bad?

If you’re a HENRY, you may feel stuck. It might seem like you aren’t making enough progress toward your financial goals.

But it’s important to emphasize the “Y” in HENRY. You’re not rich yet — that doesn’t mean you’ll never be rich.

“With smart planning, managing expenses and focusing on long-term goals, HENRYs have a great opportunity to build real wealth down the road,” Landivar said.

“Without that focus, though, it’s easy to stay stuck living paycheck to paycheck despite a high income.”

Start by making, or revisiting, your financial plan. If you’re not sure where to begin, consider getting help from a financial advisor. Getting rich may happen sooner than you think.

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Lauren Schwahn writes for NerdWallet. Email: lschwahn@nerdwallet.com. Twitter: @lauren_schwahn.

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A Reddit user recently asked for advice on ways to stop thinking about money nonstop.

It’s hard, the user explained, to avoid fixating on personal finances. Comparing yourself to others can be tempting, even though doing so doesn’t feel good or productive.

Other users jumped in to offer tips, such as talking to a therapist, finding a new hobby, scaling back on social media and saving enough for a sufficient safety net.

Financial experts say focusing on your own financial plan is the best way to avoid thinking too much about what other people might be doing.

Make a plan

“Something about having a plan in place takes a lot of the stress off,” says Dwayne Reinike, a certified financial planner and founder of Valiant Financial Planning in Kirkland, Washington.

Similar to how writing down everything on your to-do list can make it easier to sleep at night, he says creating a basic financial plan allows you to relax. That plan can include a budget, retirement goals and other savings targets.

You might hear that the markets are down or concerns about a coming recession, “but it’s OK, because you have a plan,” Reinike says.

Pick one goal to focus on

Picking one goal to focus on — such as saving up for a house or setting limits for spending — can give you a greater sense of control over your financial life, says Stephanie Loeffel, a CFP and founder of Ascend Financial in the Boston area.

If you don’t have a goal to guide you, she says, then it’s easy to bounce between different ideas based on the day’s news. If interest rates fall, you might wonder if you should buy a house. If the stock market fluctuates, you may question whether it’s time to shift your retirement investments.

She recommends zeroing in on what you can control: your own spending, saving and other financial habits.

“You take the emotion out of the equation and it’s easier to not obsess about the noise around you,” Loeffel says.

Designate a specific time to focus on money

Setting aside time at least once a year to map your financial plans can ease your mind the rest of the time.

Use that time to think about what you want to achieve with your money. You can also set short-term and long-term goals, says Reinike.

“If you have your emergency fund set up and on auto-deposit, then you can go a year or so without thinking about it,” he says. (You may want to conduct quick check-ins throughout the year to check for any errors.)

Similarly, a retirement savings account with automatic deposits from your paycheck doesn’t need to be constantly monitored.

If unexpected events pop up, such as a new baby or a job loss, then you can revisit those plans and adjust. Otherwise, you can maintain your current course.

“People tend to make changes when they’re really happy or really upset, and that’s not the time to make changes. It’s the time to stick with the plan you already established,” Reinike says.

Build up savings and pay off debt

Another way to gain more control over your finances is to double down on saving money and paying off debt, Loeffel says. Many of her clients are surprised about their expenses once they start tracking them.

Monitoring your cash flow for six months is a good place to start. Then, make adjustments to eventually achieve a goal of putting around 10% into savings. That can help build up an emergency fund.

“Once you have an emergency fund, you’re not as vulnerable,” Loeffel says.

That makes it easier to worry less about negative events that can hurt your finances.

“It takes away that emotional vulnerability because you have a cushion and you have control,” she says.

Similarly, paying off debt is something you can control. You can make a plan for paying off debt — perhaps using the avalanche or snowball method — then watch your progress as the weeks tick by, Loeffel says.

The avalanche method involves paying the debt with the highest interest rate first. The snowball method refers to building momentum by paying off the smallest debt balances first.

Avoid comparisons to others

“Compare yourself to the you of yesterday, not everyone else,” suggests Reinike.

Just as in sports, you should strive for a personal best — not necessarily doing better than others.

You really can’t compare your financial situation to others based on social media. Posts don’t tell the whole story or how people are funding their lifestyle, Reinikehe adds.

“Everyone’s journey is individualized.”

Reddit is an online forum where users share their thoughts in “threads” on various topics. The popular site includes plenty of discussion on financial subjects like saving and budgeting, so we sifted through Reddit forums to get a pulse check. People post anonymously, so we cannot confirm their individual experiences or circumstances.

Kimberly Palmer writes for NerdWallet. Email: kpalmer@nerdwallet.com. Twitter: @kimberlypalmer.

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